"Daddy"

Book 12 - Special Edition Post For My Bio-Family

I never thought my family and I would see the Patriarch of our family down to a point of being bed ridden.  My dad can't do anything for himself (feeding, walking, bathing, getting from point A to point C) without the assistance of doctors, nurses, CNA's (Certified Nurses Assistants) and everyone in my bio-family and extended family. My dad was so full of life. Everyday single day when he's not busy running errands, or walking his dog Sheba, he was always on the outside of his home barbecuing on his very unique barbecue grill he built special to accommodate the food he was preparing to sale to his friends and other customers who wanted buy barbecue.  My dad's men:  Barbecue ribs, barbecue chicken, sausages, fish, fries, pulled pork, cole slaw, barbecued baked beans, etc,.  "You name it!"  That was the menu for every one's enjoyment for the most awesome and the most tastiest barbecue with all the trimmings.  My aunts (Aunt Minnie) noticed my dad wasn't his vibrant self.  She saw that my dad wasn't feeling well and was looking sort of peeked and totally weak looking.  Aunt Minnie rushed dad to the hospital.  That was five months and one week ago.  It was almost a week after my dad was admitted to the hospital that my bio-family and I was told about dad had been admitted to the hospital.  I'm wasn't going to dawn in haste, or anger about how my bio-family and I felt about not being informed about the patriarch (dad) about his sickness.  The thought of dad having cancer when it was nothing more than a large cyst and "stage two" at the time" cirrhosis of the liver was very overwelming. My bio-family and I didn't know dad was in the hospital for one whole week and that was without knowledge that my he was that sick.  "We figured that time in our my lives considering my aunts indiscretion was over was and done with!"  That was then...this is now!  Part of the past.  My family and I arrived to the hospital. We saw the patriarch like we've never seen him beforebefor.  He looked so tired...like he had no strength what so ever.  He looked totally helpless!  He was breathing was so shallow, like he couldn't catch his breath.  My twin sister, mother Ruth, my brother and his wife (my sister-in-law Neyome saw that dad was in so much pain.  We couldn't bear to see him in the state that he was in.  My twin sister Sherri, my brother Wesley Jr. broke down in a river of tears as we looked on helplessly while dad laid there in that hospital bed in pain and trying to catch his breath.  My strength left.   I knew that my twin sister and brother felt the same.  At that particular moment, I felt as though I was going to lose my mind thinking in reality that dad was at the end of his rope. My sister-in-law Neyome took me immediately into her arms and consoled with the greatest security and comfort.  I really thank GOD and his son JESUS for my sister-in-law when I really needed a shoulder to cry my river of tears on.  I couldn't help but think in reality that my bio-family and I was going to lose dad at any moment.  I for one appreciated my extended family and everyone else in attendance that night at the hospital. There were so much support.  It gave my bio-family and I the sense of security and comfort only GOD and his son JESUS can give more than a mortal man or woman can give. Many events (deception, indiscretion, battles, rumor of wars with my extended family members...I don't care to bring up, or talk about with haste) occurred during the time months after dad was first admitted from one hospital to the next.  It was around the end of August and throughout the month of September.  That was vaguely around the time my mother Ruth got sick.  She was back and forth...along with dad in the hospital.  "One can only imagine having both parents in and out of the hospital at the same time with different aliments."  My twin sister Sherri, Wesley Jr. my sister-in-law Neyome have been through a whole lot in a short amount of time with both parents sick and in and out of one hospital to the next.  Wow!  "That was a complete double whammy!" I'm so glad that all my bio-family and extended family has settled most of our differences.  "My bio-family and I still can't swallow the fact and in thought that Power of Attorney over my dad's health, finances and other clauses carried on the paper that it's written doesn't belong to us as it should belong."  So nonetheless...everyone can picture and imagine the wars and rumor of wars fought between the two families I implicated about earlier in my post about dad.  Like I said, "That war is over and done with!" I'm glad!  The reality of what has happened to my bio-family is still ongoing with disappointment.  In time...my bio-family and I will heal from it.  Although...I can say that my bio-family and I pray everyday to GOD and his son JESUS to help us cope with the extent of the clauses with the power of attorney held over our heads that only the "matriarch" ...the next head of our bio-family should have the rights to. Further most...positivity is the "key to success" for both families to come together in support for dad.  That is "everyone" main focus!   "At this present time, my dad is still in the same state he is in when he was first admitted to the hospital back in June, but he is now in "stage four" cirrhosis of the liver and slight kidney failure."  He's now in the hospital under hospice care to make him more comfortable until GOD and his son JESUS see fit either to take him to glory in Heaven...leaving all his pain behind, or they will provide a miracle for dad to become his vibrant self again.  "Dad's life is in GOD and his son JESUS hands!"  My bio-family and I pray consistently everyday for a miracle that the patriarch (dad) of our family will get well; get up on his feet again; joke with us; prepare his awesome barbecue's and spend quality time with both families in attendance in prayer, hope, faith, trust every single day for dad's "total" recovery.  That will be a glorious and a joyous time in the lives of both families to have dad back in full body, mind, heart and soul.  "In the name of GOD and his son JESUS; in the name of the Holy Spirit."

"Both Families are asking everyone for prayer (whomever see this post) worldwide.  We will appreciate everyone and we will acknowledge everyone prayers to the family in heart, mind, body and soul."