Uncommon Valor Towards Its Common Virtue

Book 147

Deuteronomy 31:6 - 6. Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy GOD, He it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee. 

1 Chronicles 28:20 - 20. And David said to Solomon his son, Be strong and of good courage, and do it; fear not, nor be dismayed; for the LORD GOD even my GOD will be with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee, until thou hast finished all the work for  the service of the house of the LORD

*I choose to keep the "girl" and the "woman" anonymous throughout my post

What do I mean when I say, "Uncommon Valor Towards Its Common Virtue?" It means exceptional bravery...a common denominator and courage was found in the hearts of those who fought for what they believe in. This is what I saw in this "girl" who fought totally hard to make ends meet. Her suffering, and her exceptional bravery was rewarded with a job, and a potential status for child support from the father of one of her babies, so that she want have to worry about her sons (who are practically babies), or whether they are going to eat, or to be clothe from one day to the next. But...GOD and his son JESUS is good all the time.

I find that the "girl" in this post was telling the truth all the time about what was really going on in her life, when we (my family) known her to be a compulsive liar. We were all wrong about this girl! She was really struggling with her self esteem. She was crying all the time, because...she was trying all she could as a single mother with two babies. Sometimes I had to ask myself, "Why did I doubt this girl, when all she tried to do is tell us about how hard her life was?"

It's obvious to know when this woman this "girl" lived with had thrown her out of her house, because of her crying babies. I had to ask myself, "What is the real reason this woman throw this "girl" out of her home?" Just like I said, "The girl's crying babies!" This woman couldn't stand for the babies to cry all day, everyday when she have a two year old walking around the house crying too. I feel it was totally wrong what this woman did to this girl.

How would she feel if someone threw her out of the house with her baby? He reaping day is coming for her in full force. But...I'm proud to say that this 'girl" is being totally brave with self confidence and her self esteem. There will be days that she will be overwhelmed with taking care of two babies, and she will cry of many days, because of being overwhelmed, but...she chose to stick it out; take care of her babies and move on to big and better things. This "girl" is getting ready to finish school and receive her GED. I couldn't be more prouder of her.

When Your Burden Down With Fear

Book 147

Isaiah 41:10 - 10. Fear thou not; for i am with thee. Be not dismayed; for I am thy GOD. I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.




*The two young women in this post, will remain anonymous


I found myself in the midst of being burden down with a situation completely out of my control. I believe my family feel the same vibes as well. There is this young woman naive to the fact. She has two children she has no idea how to take care of. Babies to be exact! Soon after she had one baby, she had another already developing in the process.

What do you say to a woman who couldn't resist the fact that she laid down and got another baby before her first could turn a year old that she couldn't take care of without assistance? Here's how the story goes. She was living with her what was suppose to be her sister-in-law. She had asked if she and her crying babies stay with my family until her suppose to be sister-in-law get her lights on again, due to non payment on time. My brother-in-law (of whom I will keep anonymous) had a heart for this girl; he let her stay until her suppose to be sister-in-law get her lights turned back on.

One week and a day pass, and still no word from her suppose to be sister-in-law confirming if she got the lights back on. And from my point of view, I didn't see this girl, whose staying with us, confirming to us that her suppose to be sister-in-law confirming to her that she got the lights turned on. So what's the verdict here? I feel the girl was trying to find her way in a already crowded home with consistently crying babies. Don't get me wrong...I do have a heart for this girl, but...with a girl who has no job, no kind of future to look forward to without an ambition to consume her independence, whose dependence on all of us who already live in the home; who pay all the bills together, has to pull her weight too.

I have a problem with that, because she is totally needy, I mean really needy! Still...don't get me wrong for a person in a dire situation, but...I feel she's not trying hard enough to find her way in the world for her two babies, and it bothers me. She has become a burden on my family, I hate to say. I don't know if she's afraid to go out on her own with her babies! She states she has put in sixteen applications, and no one is calling her for an interview. I'm wondering if she's checking on each application to speed up the process.

Aggravate the people behind the applications. Do what you have too to speed up that process of getting a job at least. She doesn't do that! So what to think when everyone in my house thinks she's a burden? Because...none of us believe she's trying to find a job if she doesn't aggravate the employers, or try picking up the phone and making a phone call to check on her applications.

So what to think when someone like her is a burden on you and the family? We are all thinking of the children in the situation, and she's given so many chances to better herself. But...in so many cases pending against her, we feel she's not trying to give us that notion that she wants a job for one...and to better herself for her children and herself. She is totally a burden with fear in her heart to fail otherwise, depending on others every single day without a notion to pick up the phone and check on her applications to really get a job. Once a freeloader, always a freeloader is the vibes I'm receiving from this girl.

What's the verdict again? I feel she should return back to the woman she was living with, because I truly believe she has had the lights back on for at least almost a week ago. "At least that's what I think, I don't want to judge it.